The relationship between parents and teenagers can sometimes be strenuous, especially when drug use is involved. It can be heartbreaking when you find out that your child has been lying to you about their drug use, and you may wonder whether or not you can ever trust them again. Here are a few common lies told by teens to their parents:
- “My drug test came back positive because I ate a cookie with poppy seeds in it beforehand.”
- “I was in the same room as some friends who were smoking weed. I must have got contact-high.”
- “I was the only one not drinking last night because I didn’t want to get in trouble, but they ended up arresting everyone who was at the party.”
You’ve seen the drug abuse warning signs in your child, and you know that they have lied to you. By utilizing the right techniques, you will be able to trust your teen again. In fact, you will need to trust your teen again in order to keep moving forward in your relationship with them.
How Can You Rebuild Trust?
If you were in a situation where your teen was lying to you about their drug use, you need to have a serious conversation with them. Not the conversation that you want to have, where you are reprimanding them and letting your anger out, but the kind of conversation they need to hear, which is in a more calm and soothing manner. Your child needs to hear that lying is always wrong, especially when drugs were involved. They need to know the dangers of drugs and alcohol and the potential hazards that these substances can have on their life.
How to Prevent Your Teen From Lying To You
Don’t be authoritarian. — The more strict you are with your kids, the more they will feel obligated to have to sneak around you. They will not want to upset you, disappoint you, or do anything that will cause them to be grounded, so more lies will take place when they do something wrong.
Don’t be afraid to talk to them about serious issues. — Some parents are afraid to talk to their children about very important issues, especially drug and alcohol use. Although, avoiding these subjects with your teens does not solve anything; they will find out about everything anyway through their peers. Let them hear about these topics first-hand from you.
Let them know that you’re there for them. — Letting your teen know that you will always be there for them no matter what can prevent them from sneaking around. They won’t disclose personal information to you if they know you will be angry and reprimanding. Make sure your teen knows that you are there for them no matter what obstacles they may encounter.
Keep an open channel of communication. — Frequently communicating with your teen, maintaining a serious effort to stay in their life, and being involved in their personal life to an extent will help you to keep an open channel of communication between you and your teen. Open communication creates the opportunity for more honest communication.
Start talking when they are young. — Don’t be afraid to start talking about serious issues involving drugs and alcohol from a young age with your teen. The younger you have these conversations with them, the more knowledge they will have growing up. Make them aware of the drug abuse and drug addiction that can come as a result of their actions.
Give them self-confidence. — Make sure that you are boosting your teen’s self-confidence and self-esteem as they enter one of the most difficult phases of their life. When a teen’s self-image is raised, they will be less likely to give into peer pressure. Remind them that they don’t have to do what everybody else is doing to be considered “cool.”
If you need more information on addiction prevention and treatment in your teen, call SAFE Prevention at 1-877-503-2608 today!